Would you...?

So far, since Talan has been in the hospital, his parents have not been able to visit him. They have a no contact order against him b/c of the injuries he suffered. Yes, I wish he could have his mom with him, yes, I feel slightly sorry for her that she can't be with her baby that is so sick, and yes, I was hoping they could see him so that I could relieve some of my guilt of not being with him all the time. All that said, the case worker got the no contact order lifted, great. She just called, and was "trying to figure out when the parents could visit"....wanted to know my visiting schedule. At first, I thought great, she is trying to arrange it so that we are up there at different times...that is a good idea, especially since I have NO desire to become friends with them. Nope. She wanted to know my visiting schedule b/c she can only swing maybe an hour this week to let them visit, and someone has to supervise the visits. Nope...not happening.


Now that he is in ICU, I can't even go as often/stay as long, b/c I can't take the kids with me like I had been doing. I am not leaving my other 4 kids at home with my hubby before he has to work, not spending time with him, to babysit child abusers. Excuse me for saying that last part. I started out having sympathy,wanting to give them the benefit of the doubt, but the longer I am in this, and realize how bad he is...see the mom is still with the dad that supposedly did it (would you stay with a man that is the reason you don't have your baby!?), I have had the mom tell me that "there was nothing at all wrong with him before" and have the docs tell me otherwise according to his records....I have lost my sympathy. It ain't happening. I don't even want to visit with him if his parents are there. I did not want to go to the first doc appointment he had with the mom along, but I did that so I could know more about what was going on with him healthwise. Which I did not even find out until I took him back without mom along, b/c she just kept saying she didn't know why he was on any of the medicine he was on, didn't know any of his health problems. Urgh. Also, the case worker gave me mom's number so I could call her and update her on Talan. No...that is not my job. I am not a foster parent to be their friend, I do not feel like we are raising this baby together. I update the case worker with everything I do for him, any changes...other stuff, but I have 4 other kids to think about, I don't want to be friends with them. I do realize there are times when this may be o.k....but this isn't part of my job title, and not something I want forced on me by the caseworker to make her job easier.

Thank you for listening to me vent.