No Fighting, No Biting

Have any of you ever read the book "No Fighting, No Biting"? I don't remember much about it except that a brother and sister were fighting, and their mom or nanny sat them down and told them stories about little alligators that fought too much. I remember reading that book as a child and it was so funny that they were fighting. I was an only child at the time, then when my sister came along when I was 11, we just never fought. I remember my best friend used to fight horribly with her sister, and I couldn't understand it.

These 3, oh the bickering all-the-time. Makes me nuts. I am looking for any creative ideas you all may have. I want it to stop. It was already pretty bad before we put them in school last year, I blamed it on them being together too much. I didn't improve though, if anything, it got worse. Noah was being bullied at school, and he was in turn inflicting his frustration on the rest of us. I am not going to let this fighting get to me enough to put them in school....I don't want that be the reason. I do want to get a handle on it a bit. Z sees a behavioral therapist, and she and I talked about him seeing how they fight, and it in turn making him act out as well. When he is around and they do it, usually they get sent to their room until they can be nice. That may be for a hour....that usually works. Today, Noah was being so hateful, I sent him to his room. Then I thought of a cleaning project I was needing to do, so instead of sending him for quiet time, he was sent to the babies' room to organize toys. It got my chore done, but it obviously didn't work b/c just 30 mins later, I heard him blessing out his sister while they were collecting hangers and laundry. I walked down the hall just to watch/listen so that I would know who was really to blame. He was just screaming at her, and she had tears in her eyes....I believe she told him she hated him, and he said, "oh, well now I know the truth!" Geez....then she told him that it was b/c he is always so hateful to everyone...which is true. Oh kiddos, this has to end! We talk about kindness. I have them to kind things for each other in return. I have made them hug for 5 mins until the end up giggling....will it ever get better, or only get worse? (I can't handle any worse!)

I am going to start by changing myself. As he was screaming at his sister, I heard myself talking. The things he was saying to her in a parental tone, were words out of my mouth when I am frustrated with them, and they didn't sound too nice. I must change that b/c I can't stand how I sound through their mouth. Someone, please send me to my room for a timeout, I promise I won't complain :)

He is now in his room....for I am not sure how long. Until it is clean, and possibly longer.

At least I got some organization out of him
They haven't been as mean, just whiney, so they are allowed to watch t.v. while folding towels,

and matching up socks

Any other creative punishments??? I would love some ideas.