***Since I am in a complaining mood, I would like to add one more thing to this post. haha. It has been 3 weeks since I took the kids for their PACE evaluation, and got all sorts of referrals for them. The only problem is, I am waiting on their case worker to change their Primary Care Physician for me. I could use the one that they were going to with their parents, but, everyone has advised me to have it switched to the one I use for the rest of my family. PLUS, the one I use is at Children's Hospital, and at the evaluation, they said it would be better for me to go there, b/c so many of the referrals will go through there. I can't get any kind of therapy going for the kids without 1st having a referral from the Primary Care Physican, and I can't get an appointment with them, until I can get the name changed of their Doc on their Medicaid. Urgh. She has been telling me for 2 weeks she would do it, and then today, she said she HAD done it, but when I called for the 3rd time trying to make a doc's appointment, they told me that no, it had not been changed, and they directed me to Medicaid, telling me that I could just go in and change that myself. I was then told from Medicaid, that NO, I can't change it myself on foster children. I still haven't gotten their shots done that are WAY behind b/c I wanted to do that at the doc instead of going to the Health Dept, b/c I could do another post on the run around I have gotten with them on everything. Why can't ANYTHING be simple???? Hunter's evaluation has me getting his shots, a hearing evaluation, a neurological evaluation, a referral for physical, and speech therapy, a swallow study, (has has problems with leaking bad around his mouth when he drinks) and then, a follow up for his 9 month old appointment, with a vision screening. Amber needs lots of shots, and a referral for speech therapy, I am afraid she has a UTI, and really need to take her for that, and she will be 4 very soon, and needs a check up for that. I guess the good news in all this, by the time I get all their appointments done, they will be 9 months and 4 yrs, so I can just include that too...but I am just so ready to get the ball rolling on their therapy. **
Why is it, if a baby makes the littlest sound, people assume...OH, I must cram a bottle down his throat. This is becoming a pet peeve of mine. I deal with this with both my babies. Hunter has just now learned to go to sleep with me rocking. Doesn't freak out when I take the bottle out of his mouth while he is asleep, and has learned new ways to be comforted without a bottle 24/7.
I have had issues from the get go with Zachariah on this. He can be a fussy baby. Yes, I know that better than anyone. He also spits up a lot. Why is it, no matter how much I tell his case worker, PLEASE don't overfeed him b/c it makes him spit up worse, and he is so cranky b/c his belly hurts, that she continues to do it?? She has had kids of her own, you would think she knows. For example, and this was the worst. The day he had court, I wasn't able to go, but I fed him right before I left the house to take him to her. At the time he was having about 2-3 ounces ever 2-3 hrs. I have told her and told her just to give him a couple of ounces at a time b/c of his belly and spitting up. She will always say, oh, he is so greedy..and I tell her, yes, he acts that way, but we know better than him. He confuses his belly hurting with thinking he needs more food, and if you give it to him, it makes him sicker, in turn making him more fussy, and he will still act like he wants to eat b/c he doesn't understand. ANYWAY, I took him to her at 11:30, she had him back to me by 2:00. I had packed a 4 ounce bottle, and then put powder in an 8 ounce bottle to be filled up IF he needed it, but since I had just fed him before he left, by my calculations, at the MOST he would have just drank the 4 ounce, and probably not that much. When she returned him to me, she said he had the 4 ounce, and the 8 ounce, and needed more b/c he was so greedy. OMG! Can I tell you how that poor baby cried all the rest of the day and jerked in pain? I wanted to kill her! So, from now on, I pack the minimum of what he needs, b/c they will feed him whatever is there, and they only have him an hour. Good grief. She was at our house one day and she was holding him. The instant he started crying she said, "oh, he needs a bottle". As soon as she handed him back to me, and I just put him in a comfortable position, he stopped. Urgh!
And, while I am complaining about over feeding, if you are going to give the baby 3 times the amount he normally eats, PLEASE change his diaper!!! Yep, I had one soaked through, and one close to it when I got home today from their visits.
And while I am talking about pee....Oh MY, I am sick of Pee. Everyday I am washing someone's bedding b/c of pee. Overflow of diapers, a little girl that is having bathroom issues....Ugh, so sick of pee. Oh, and I SO love the waterproof mattress pad, that isn't waterproof at all. And now a lovely pee smell in a mattress, and I can't get the smell out. And a little girl that no matter how much I BEG her to tell me when she has an accident, and PROMISE her she won't get into trouble, still won't tell me she has had an accident, and is so sneaky at changing panties that I never know....Until I step in the big puddle in the floor and see that is is now soaked through a blanket, stuffed animal, pillow, and comforter that are in the floor that is on top of the rug that is also dripping, and then still through to the carpet. And she tells me her "medicine" made her do it....but she doesn't take any medicine. I had the case worker ask her mom about it today, and she said she never has accidents, and she doesn't know anything about the "medicine", although she mentions it far too frequently for her mom to not know anything about it....in my opinion anyway. ***(but please don't think I am mad at her b/c of this, as I know she can't help it, I jsut hate pee.)
Oh, and as I filled out my mileage sheet to get reimbursed for all this running around that I do, I realized that every Monday morning I drive 70 miles round trip, and this is all within Little Rock. It would really be nice if SOMEONE that I ask that works for DHS would actually be able to tell me how to fill it out, and who to turn it in to. I finally found out who I turn it in to, and that has been a process in itself, and I still haven't made any progress.
Can you tell that LIFE is getting on my nerves today?? haha
I bet that all can be very stressful! I continue to pray for you everyday if it makes you feel any better. And those travel things are harder than people think because I had to do them too when I interned. I also saw a lot of case workers that I did not like how they handled many situations...but some did do a very great job and I am thankful for those that do! I just wish I could find a job being that IS what my major is and I so would always know not to overfeed a baby, much less one that has spitting up issues (like my oldest did) Goodness girlie, you've got my heart a racing now!
ReplyDeleteO.K. I'm done...Take care and God bless! And I know you are doing a great job so keep remembering that...or I'll keep telling you over and over and over again!
Love ya, Jenn
i HATE those milage reimbursement sheets. it almost isn't worth it!!! i've filled mine out about 5 times, now, still no reimbursement because SOMETHING is wrong. sat. and sundays go on a different sheet, so they void the whole thing. then mental health care appointments should be separate, and they void the whole thing again. SHEESH!
ReplyDeleteAre you serious Brandy?? That is insane. No wonder nobody that works there knows how to fill one out!
ReplyDeleteI would NOT give up until I got my mileage as expensive as gas is! Sorry, but I wouldn't!
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ReplyDeletei absolutely can't say anything but, wow. you, my friend, are amazing.
That's it, let it ALL out....Now doesn't that fill better....Know I'm praying for ya, and I'm here if you need someone to talk to....
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