Boy, it is hard to get to the computer these days. My laptop is crap, and is so hard to type on it, as my cursor jumps all around...it is possessed I think. I never make it back here to the computer in our bedroom anymore. So, we will see how long this lasts.
Monday was Hunter and Amber's PACE evaluation. I really did like all the staff at the center. It is part of Children's, and also UAMS I believe. Most of the staff that worked with us was strictly for foster children. As we suspected, Hunter was very behind. Actually more behind that I thought. They had to go all the way back to 1 month old on some of his social skills. He also couldn't pass his hearing test. They noted his limpness and also the shape of his head. They basically said it was either something going on with him and he would always have difficulties, or it could be from neglect. Hmm...that was the same diagnosis Clay and I had. The kids were also very behind on all their immunizations...JOY....nothing I hate worse than immunizations, especially on an almost 4 yr old. There is a health department across the street from the DHS office they visit at, and Clay said their case worker should make their mom take them over there and do that. I tell you, I could do a whole post on some of the resentment I feel at times over things we are doing the parents SHOULD have done. I know that is the wrong attitude to have, and that is the whole idea behind doing this, what I didn't bank on is how emotional I would be about all that. Anyway, the highest age they assessed him at in any area was 4 months, and in a lot of areas, it was 2 months. Bless his heart. So, where to go from here? I called a place in Maumelle called Helping Hands, and I can take my referral up there for an evaluation. But first I need to get their Medicaid number....WHY do I have to keep asking for simple stuff like this on my kids?? Seems like that would be something I should automatically get. Then I have to wait for the case worker to get the primary physician switched over, and then I can go for the evaluation. I also need to go do all his shots, and then I need to take him for a visit with his new doc at Children's hospital clinic, and then have neurology tests, and I think there was one other referral on there. For Amber, she also needs shots, needs to go to the dentist, and then luckily, the daycare is going to have someone come there to provide speech therapy for her, but she may need a little more. I am not exactly sure what I really need to do for her. Yep, I am tired just typing all that!
O.k. Zachariah is screaming at me, so I will be back later to talk about their visit today.
i'm with you on all of that. it bothers me that you are the one having to do it. not that doing it is the problem, it's that the parents DIDN'T do it that bothers me. Also, what worries me is if they go back, will she/he take care of them and keep up with where you left off? just from working here at the hospital and dealing with the mamas and babies here, really sounds like she did some either drinking or drugs while pregnant with him. UGH! i have no tolerance for that mess. i'm distraught for you...wish i could help in some way.
ReplyDeleteWell, you all and I were both right about Hunter. I hope the neurology tests come back okay, once you can even take him! I think that it is ridiculous that you didn't get their Medicaid numbers up front and then have to wait on the process. And the shots. Oh no! I feel like you do... why should you have to do all that their parents neglected? It's so sad. I can't believe all of the stuff the parents DIDN'T do. And Poor Hunter. God bless his little heart. Along with Maury's......
ReplyDeleteI'm just so glad that these kids have you to take care of them now. It seems they have needed you for a long time. I think it's fine to vent that you are wishing the parents did things right. It is just so not fair to those little ones that they have to play catch up now.
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