Question about Zachariah

***UPDATE TO THIS POST** About Brandy's comment, like in Hunter and Amber's case, they would probably go to their grandparents in the timeframe she mentioned if everything goes through with them. On Zachariah, the case worker said that even if the dad IS the dad, they will still wait awhile to see if the moom comes around b/c that is always the 1st choice. Also, I think there are some things in question about the dad so that would have to be investigated and the judge make a decison about that. (And if what I have heard is true, and they can obtain proof, then I would be furious if he got him. It was not told to me by the caseworker, but by someone else that heard from another caseworker...that shouldn't have even been discussed I am sure, my case worker danced around the question when I asked if the dad would get him soon, but she indicated there was stuff going on.) So, it may not take a whole year if he is going to go to the dad, but it will probably be awhile still. IF he isn't the dad, and even if the mom were to say for sure she doesn't want them, then they would do what they call "Fasttrack", and even then he would be ready for adoption about the time of his 1st b-day. So, fasttrack, really isn't fast.****

Yes, Zachariah also has visits. He was suppose to have 2 hr visits twice a week with his mom, but she has only come once, and hasn't showed up since. And, she hasn't even shown up for his court date. Knowing what little I do about her history, I don't really have mean thoughts about her, I really feel sorry for her. She has had a horrible life, so I don't blame her that she doesn't care about having a baby. I do look at him when he is smiling and cooing, and actually feel sorry for her that she is so messed up, she is missing out on his little adorable life. She will have up to a year to change her mind and begin visiting him, and during that years time if she does come forward and start trying, her time can be extended so that she can try to get him back.

And Heather guessed it right in her comment, he was taken from her at the hospital b/c of drugs in his system when he was born. That is a law now, and has resulted in a lot of infants brought into care.

He does have a dad that visits. He shows up faithfully, and we have that visit once a week for an hour. This is who is claimed as his father on the birth certificate, but the mom has indicated there are a few possibilites, so we are waiting on paternity test results to see if he really is. If he is, he does want Zachariah. If he isn't then there isn't much they will really do to track down the dad. I have heard not so nice things about him as well, and he is also close to 60 yrs old, so even though I am glad he cares about his son....Zachariah going to live with him is something I just can't stand to think about. But, that will be a while in the future as well if it happens, so I just try not to think about it for now. When I do allow myself to think about it, all I can think about is his dad will be over 75 when Zach graduates, and if he goes to live with him, he won't have a mother. And I am the only mother he knows. That is what absolutely breaks my heart...b/c he seems pretty attached to me. BUT, again, anything that happens will be a long way away. We are looking at probably having him at least a year I think. I am just going to love him as much as I can, and pray as hard as I can that the Lord will do make the best thing for him happen.